Remembrance Day is always a solemn and meaningful day in Ottawa. I have lived here in this city long enough that I still remember attending ceremonies at the national cenotaph downtown and being able to see World War II veterans parade around the National War Memorial.
You can make fun of Ottawa a for lot, and many do, but this city remembers and I am proud of that tradition. A few years ago, a colleague of mine from Carleton University sent me a message thanking me for convincing him to go to the national ceremony years earlier, as our university professors told us it was worthwhile to do so, as budding journalists and as Canadians. I had to confess that I don't remember much of that ceremony, but I'm proud I made a small difference that day.
Here's a story from my family that makes me think about war; how it sometimes brings out the best in us when we fight against the worst in us.
My grandfather, Egidio, grew up in relative poverty in northern Italy. When World War II broke out, he was forced to enlist with Mussolini's forces. My Nonno, as I called him in Italian, was part of the occupying forces in what was then known as Yugoslavia. As we all know, the Italians eventually overthrew their dictator and killed him in 1945.
When that happened, the country's army essentially disbanded, which meant my Nonno and his friends were stranded in Yugoslavia, amid the very people whose country they occupied. Making matters worse, the Germans were hunting down the Italians as traitors.
I don't know the particulars of much of the story, as it was told to me in pieces by my Mom and my Uncle John. They told me my Nonno and his friends ditched their uniforms and relied on the mercy of the various people living in Yugoslavia, as they moved by night to get back to Italy by foot. I was told they slept in barns, begged for food, were given clothes to pass as civilians, and kept out of sight.
As if crossing a country on foot while being pursued by Nazis wasn't bad enough, my Nonno and his friends had a friend who was injured and could not walk. Although he told them to leave him to die in Yugoslavia, they refused. They fashioned some sort of makeshift sled and pulled him, using their belts.
They dragged him home to Italy.
This is the part of the story that always gets me. When asked why they would risk so much for one man, their answer was simple. They could not return home and face that man's family if they left him behind. That type of selflessness and heroism is but one example of countless acts of bravery.
My Nonno and I at Heritage Park in Calgary, 1991I know this is not a heroic tale of what Canada did during the wars. I love my country and have mixed feelings about my family's war history.
We Canadians all know what a sterling war record our country has, a legacy that sadly was built on the blood and sacrifice of millions of people, many of whom whose stories will never be told. I can still recite In Flanders Fields word for word, as it was drilled into us as kids at school. That poem, to me, is the ultimate tribute to those whose stories will never be told, but whose actions paved the way for the Canada we enjoy today.
But I mention my Nonno for a reason. After the war was over, he made his way to Canada to work for the Canadian Pacific Railway in British Columbia, so he could earn enough money to bring his family over. Eventually, the family settled in Windsor, including my mom.
I will never know more of my Nonno's story as he spoke mainly Italian and spoke very little English. I will also never know what effect the war had on him, but I'm sure it did. I do know that, were it not for his bravery, another man's family would have a very different history.
I also know that, had he not come to Canada, my own story would never have happened.
In his house in Windsor, my Nonno always had a small Italian flag in his front room. Beside that flag, he had a Canadian flag. As proud as he was to be Italian, he was equally grateful that Canada took him in, a person who was an enemy just years earlier. That type of mercy is part of the reason I am here today.
That, to me, is Canada at its best. It's people doing their very best at a time when people are doing their very worst.
Lest we forget.

